Cave Sex
Where have we Come from? Where are we going?
20,000 ft
The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it.
1 John 1: 5
What is Cave Sex?
Where have I come from?
Choosing to leave the Cave
Where am I going?
Elevation 3: Cave Sex.
Where We explore How Evil Distorted Sex, how we got Started, why we stay and how to leave.
Now that you have the the tools and the start of distancing yourself from going Inner Circle, now is the perfect time to look back in your story and reflect on how did unwanted sexual behavior start in your life. This journey will take the three C’s to a whole new level:
Courage: Looking back on your story for many of you won’t be easy. Stories of your past and how Evil has been destroying sexuality in your life will take time to remember and reflect. It will take courage to be open, honest and to trust the group as you share stories you thought you had forgotten.
Curiosity: Evil wants us to feel shame about our stories. Not Jesus. He is with us on this journey, and the Holy Spirit, the Spirit of Jesus is walking with as we reflect. Instead of shame, feel curious. Ask questions about how your past is a doorway to seeing a different story for you in the future. Evil wants us to feel trapped in our stories. God wants us to trust Him in our stories as Jesus co-authors them with us. To do this, we must be unafraid to ask questions and allow others to ask us questions.
Commitment: There will be a lot of uncomfortable moments. Maybe in group, maybe in the homework, but no matter what we are asked to do on this journey, let’s trust Jesus and trust the process of Jesus rebuilding us as we walk away from unwanted sexual behavior.
The Role Professional Counseling
It’s important to note that Climb29 is a group of men, transformed by Jesus, who are leading out of their own stories and freedom from sexual sin. We are no professional counselors or therapists.
As we dig into each others stories, you may want to dig deeper and need to dig deeper. We strongly recommend professional counseling at your local church.
Elevation 3•Cave Sex•20,000 Ft
First Let’s Celebrate your wins!
Let’s pause for a moment and see how far we have climbed already. Here are the things you are now able to do to, or you are starting to do:
You completed the second Elevation in Climb29: Base Camp! You are halfway up Everest! This was over a years journey and Jesus has done a great work in your life!
Addictive Cycle: You know the Addictive Cycle and you can locate where you are in it.
Addictive System. You have started to learn about your Addictive System and how Evil is targeting you specifically.
Sending a LifeLines: Each of you have become experts in sending LifeLines and pointing each other to Jesus, AFTER Inner Circle and BEFORE Ritual.
Lasting weeks without going Inner Circle: Each of you has experienced victory that has lasted more than a week. Some of you longer. This is amazing.
Learned tons of tool to help you think clearly, with Jesus, before choosing to go Inner Circle.
Goals of Cave Sex:
The goal of Cave Sex is for us to explore our stories much deeper than you may have ever done. Now that our trust has grown in the group, so has our maturity to talk about how we got here and how do we leave.
We will explore your childhood and it’s impact on Inner Circle
We will explore your family and the dynamics you grew up with in your home
We explore the types of Porn/Fantasies you are drawn into and we will ask questions about why
You will be faced with the choice of staying in the cave or leaving it behind
We will, with the Grace of Jesus, leave Cave Thinking and allow Jesus to start a new Garden Thinking in our lives
What are the big questions we are trying to answer?
We are asking two major questions:
How did I get into the cave? (Where is my story coming from?)
How do I leave the cave? (Where is my story going?)
Where should I be with how often I go Inner Circle?
At this stage of the elevation, you should start Cave Sex lasting a week or weeks without going inner circle and you should move to lasting months at the end of Cave Sex.
How long does Cave Sex take?
This part of the climb takes about 16 weeks.
When Are You Ready For The Next Stage?
You are ready when:
You have done the hard work of naming how you got into the cave
You have done the hard work of naming why you stay
You have done the hard work of starting to leave the cave
You can last at least a month without going inner circle
Besides this you know the time, that the hour has come for you to wake from sleep. For salvation is nearer to us now than when we first believed. The night is far gone; the day is at hand. So then let us cast off the works of darkness and put on the armor of light. Let us walk properly as in the daytime, not in orgies and drunkenness, not in sexual immorality and sensuality, not in quarreling and jealousy. But put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh, to gratify its desires.
Romans 13: 11-14
Tools for the Cave
1
Purchase And be ready to start Reading “Unwanted” By Jay Stringer
Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing is a ground-breaking resource that explores the “why” behind self-destructive sexual choices. The book is based on research from over 3,800 men and women seeking freedom from unwanted sexual behavior, be that the use of pornography, an affair, or buying sex.
2
Watch “The Heart Of Man”
The Heart of Man is a cinematic retelling of the parable of the Prodigal Son, intertwined with contemporary and poignant true testimonies of sexual brokenness. These genres are combined to reveal the compassionate heart of God the father for his sons and daughters illuminating an age-old truth: Shame is not a barrier to God's love, but a bridge to absolute transformation, freedom and hope.
Guidelines for the cave